Saturday, November 28, 2009

When blogging may not be the best solution..

What do I do when I have an issue that is bothering me? I write. In other words, I blog. I treasure you all SO much because of all the things you have helped me through in the last year. Recently I've come across an odd problem. In the last 6 months or so I've opened up my blog to select friends and family. I've never had a problem with this until recently.

As I said before, usually when something is bothering me I write about it. I've been writing in journals for years and this year I started this blog. My issue is this, I have a problem that directly affects one of these aforementioned family/friends. If I openly blog about the issue, I may make myself feel better by getting it out, but I would also be opening an even bigger can-of-worms becasue that person would know there is a problem.

I know, the easy solution is to get the problem out, let it be fixed, and move on. It isn't that simple this time as this isn't something there is a solution for. The *problem* isn't a problem per se, rather something that has been upsetting me. So opening this can-of-worms would only hurt the other person and probably make things worse. I'll get over it eventually, it would just be easier if I could blog about it.

Has this happened to anyone else? What did/would you do?


  1. Yes, I hear you. That fine line between IRL friends and blog friends crosses now and then...and apparently, this is one of those times!

    Sounds like you know what to do. But if you need an outlet that is a happy compromise, feel free to email me. I can always listen. And I am a vault. :)

  2. I am right there with you! My whole reason for starting my blog was from move my writing from journals to this form....but when the person that is at the center of this constant issue is also on your followers list, it certainly does make this a whole BIGGER can of worms.

    I wish i had an easy answer for you, but i am currently still struggling & starting to think maybe i'll just start writing about it. It is MY blog....and that is the idea behind it. You can also do it person to person then blog about it.(I tried the person to person...but it was like the most uncomfortable - giant elephant in the room situation that got us NOWHERE.) So i wish you luck my dear & let me know how it turns out. :)

  3. I almost wrote a blog about this just the other day. About how blogging is an outlet that helps me work through issues, but what do we do when we have an issue with someone or something and we know the person reads our blog?

    I guess in my situation I ultimately decided to not actually post the blog I wrote about my problem. I wrote the whole blog and then just didn't publish it. It helped me to get my feelings down, to air them out. But I also know that my intention in blogging was not to hurt the person I was having problems with.

    I found that helpful. Maybe you will too.